Me & Betty Jo went and saw some good movies tonight and then Leon took me home. Leon Rogers that is, he just got back from serving in Japan. He’s one of those water lilies, and listen to this, he hasn’t taken out a girl in 3 months, and oh man I was scared. Scared was I ever! Just think of for instance me not kissing a boy for a whole 3 months, well I know I would go all overboard at the first guy to kiss me! I have gone out with Leon before and I have been out with a lot of passionate boys, but believe me he is one passion flower. So he kisses me a bunch of times and I say “Leon I have to go in”, but then he grabs me and won’t let me go. So I’m trying like mad not to make a scene and to keep it light. He got me all nervous and jittery, because the last time he took me out, he scared the hell out of me and got me down and wouldn’t let me up. So I fights him off and I say an abrupt “Goodnight” and he says “You’re not going away mad are you”? I says “Leon, get wise to yourself”!
Sat. January 19, 1952
Went to the Stomp tonight with Loreen & Bonnie and we had a real crazy time. We saw Tennessee Ernie Ford there and the place was packed. We all came home together in one car, I went home with Bob somebody or other. I got pawed at so damn much tonight that I’m real disgusted. But what got me most was this real self-assured guy had the nerve to come over and ask me to dance at the very last dance of the evening when I was still with Bob. I felt bighearted at the moment, so I danced with him. He was real smooth & fine looking and he knew it, he was so damn sure of himself it aggravated me. He asked me to go home with him and I told him sorry, I’m going home with Bob. I says listen man: “I don’t give no shit to nobody and I don’t play no guy for dirt, so don’t go away mad, just go away”! And I just left him standing there. So I went home with Bob, he is real nice and he kisses real good too. He is leaving tomorrow night back to the base, he’s another one of those water lilies but he was at least respectful. I got in at quarter after 2am.
I have to clarify that in the 1950’s “going home with a guy” does not hold the same meaning as it does today! It literally meant that the boy just saw you to your home. You all know the classic scene in the movies right? Where the boy walks the girl up to her porch after their date? It was customary for a man to do this back then. Sure he may try to plant that awkward kiss on the pretty girl or…..maybe they’re ‘parked’ in the front of her house in a 1952 Chevy Bel Air making out in the heat of passion.
I also love this 1950’s expression “passion flower or water lily” when describing someone filled with strong emotions and lusting desires. Why a water lily? In some cultures the Lily symbolizes the heart, love and passion. But there is a marked difference between true love and lust. Lust is always selfish and makes the other person into an object of desire, while love is always self-giving and self-sacrificing. I could only guess why Vilma took a second date with that Leon fella after her first experience, hopefully she won’t be making that mistake again.
In the words of Blessed Archbishop Fulton Sheen: “There is a world of difference in which a man loves a woman and a woman loves a man — a world of difference. A man can love a part of a woman; a woman can love only the whole man”. Now, that is why, my dear girls, that the boys will talk about your legs. They can love a part of you. They can love a dimple, but then they have to marry a woman.
Do you [girls] ever talk about boys' legs? Never. You never mention boys' legs. Why? Simply because you are not built that way and a boy is different. That is the reason why you've got to watch the young men. Don't think they love you simply because they love a part of you.
As we ponder this, let’s have a listen to some classic sounds of Tennessee Ernie Ford: