I felt pretty sick this morning, and anyway it’s Daddy’s birthday so I stayed home from work today. Man that is the life. I stayed in bed till about 1 o’clock and then got up, got dressed and went to town and fooled around. I saw Scratch, that manager from the El Monte Bowling Alley and he offered me a ride again. I says “Listen buster you’re married & you got 2 kids, you can just go to hell and rot there Mister”! He called me Chicken Heart, so I says “Listen man, I’m not scared of the devil and you don’t by far compare with him”, and he says “Well I am the devil and you’re scared of my lovemaking”. So I laughs and I says “You’re really very terrifying, I’m trembling with fear. I says “Shove off, scram, hit the road, clear out, and get the hell out of here”…..and he left. Daddy had a real fine birthday.
Tuesday January 29, 1952
Dannie & Sandy and some other guy came down tonight to meet Betty Jo and to take me out too. Dannie wants me to go with them Saturday night to the NCO Club and have a ball. But I says “What makes you think I want to go? I’d rather go up to The Stomp". So anyway we had a big fight tonight, me and that piss-head Dannie. Not about that though, I don’t like his funny remarks. Betty Jo loves him and can take all of his crap, but I don’t think I especially have the hot rocks for him and I’m not taking nothing from that old pissy. So I told them I’m not going out with them tonight just because of his smart remarks. So he begged me and begged me to go, but I wouldn’t budge. He went off mad and I came home.
Wednesday January 30, 1952
I got a letter from Charles yesterday. He says he still loves me & more mushy crap like that. He is in Korea now on the front lines and he told me all about it. He said when he got my Christmas card I sent him, he was so happy I remembered him that he sat down and cried. He sees all of his buddies getting killed over there and it is real sad. So I wrote him back today, jeez-o that’s the least I can do for our guys.
Betty Jo came over tonight. She cut school and went off with Dannie, the guys, Nancy and Marcia to the snow. Up to Big Pines that is, man what a fine deal.
Thursday January 31, 1952
Betty Jo came over tonight and damn it all, she said that Sandy Sweet said he liked me and thought I was a real nice girl when I went out with him that night. And he was going to ask me to the show Tuesday night when they came down. What gets me mad is that I was real pissed off that night and was very rude to Dannie, Sandy & the other guy. I think I must have hurt his feelings & I feel sort of bad that I was rude to Sandy. I wouldn’t have gone to the show with him anyway because I don’t like him, but he didn’t do anything, I was just very aggravated that night because of Dannie. Betty Jo is going to try to patch things up for me.
Ladies: Here is the ideal way to handle a married man who is hitting on you:
“Listen buster you’re married & you got 2 kids, you can just go to hell and rot there Mister”! So I laughs…. and I says shove off, scram, hit the road, clear out, and get the hell out of here"…and he left.
Perfection! Scratch deserves to be laughed at, looked upon with disdain and ridiculed, he’s a persistent little devil for hitting on Vilma twice now (see January 16th entry). Sometimes one has to be vigilant to fight the good fight and to never let your spiritual shield down in face of the devil’s temptations. For Vilma, her moral compass and common sense told her of the severe emotional and spiritual consequences for playing around like that. To keep her life uncomplicated and in line with her beliefs, a married man was always “hands off”. Period! If you like, memorize Vilma's words and use them when the need arises. Your life will be better for it. Men: this treatment can apply to married women too!
Just for fun
I thought we’d have some fun today and re-cap some of the fabulous sayings of the 1950’s we have heard so far throughout the Diary:
Get wise to yourself = Smarten up
Went home with a guy = A guy either walked or drove you to your home
An old kissy = Someone who kisses your butt
Piss-head (or Pissy) = Jerk
Chicken heart = Coward
Pipe dream = You’re living in a fantasy world
Falsies = Fake boobs/padded inserts (non-surgical)
Laughed my fool head off = something was hysterical
Water Lily/Passion Flower = a person who is loveable and needs lots of affection
I have lots of Scotch in me = I have lots of Scotch in me
That last one gets me every time! Bet you didn’t know that alcohol and wine were commonly used as a remedy for the flu or cold back in the 1950’s….regardless, Vilma still loved a stiff drink or two.